1. Decide What You Want:

 When it comes to getting what you want, deciding what you want always seems to be the hardest part. While you may just go ‘Oh, I want this’, it really is much more complicated than that. Deciding what you genuinely want is so important as you’ll have no way of getting what you want if you haven’t devised a way to get it. For this step, you really need to sit down and think about what you want and why.

2. Create A ‘Must Do’ List:

Once you’ve decided exactly what you want, it is finally time to create a plan of how to get there. In order to do this, you must come up with a ‘must do’ list. Now, until a few months ago, I’d never heard of a must do list, but after learning more about it, I realised how crucial it is to make one. Everyone has a to-do list, and most of them are rarely completed. This is since to-do lists rarely pose urgency. Instead, you must redefine the word and change it to a ‘Must Do’ list. This will help you begin with baby steps as you work towards your goal.

3. Set Goals And Create A Timeline:

Now, you’ve got yourself a goal to achieve and a ‘Must Do’ list! Amazing job! The next thing you need to do is create a timeline! Ideally, you want to set your goals and create a timeline on how quickly you achieve your smaller goals leading to your overall goal. By writing down your goals and how you’re going to achieve them, you are more likely to succeed (even if it takes longer than expected!) Remember to be realistic when creating your goals. While it’s great to reach for the stars, sometimes not everything is physically possible.

4. Be Prepared To Take On The Responsibility:

Now, while it’s easy to wish for something and to want it, sometimes we don’t realistically think about the effects of getting it. Close your eyes and think about it. Once you have what you want, will the responsibilities or privileges given to you be well taken care of, and are you ready to receive it?! No matter how much thought has gone into a dream, it always changes once it becomes a reality, a bit like a metaphor for becoming a celebrity, for example.

5. Avoid Those Who Bring You Down:

At its core, jealousy is at the root of all our negative feelings towards other people. While it kind of sucks to hear, it’s also reassuring. Has anyone ever disliked you for no reason, or said bad things about you without even knowing you? If they have, it’s probably just envy or jealousy. People get mad at others with things they don’t have. And… That’s the truth. Without realising it, some of your friends or even family may be the ones bringing you down or holding you back from what you want in life.

6. Stay Focused On Your Goal:

When it comes to getting what you want, motivation always comes into play. Staying focused on your goal and what you want, rather than losing your motivation and giving up, is a complete MUST! While it can be easy to get off track from our goals for days, weeks, months or even years, it’s important to make your goals prevalent in your life so you can keep your spark of motivation bright.

7. Understand What’s Holding You Back:

With anything that we want, there is almost always something holding us back. When working towards your goal, try thinking about what’s holding you back from reaching your full potential. It could be a person, a belief or even a mentality, but acknowledging this will allow you to figure out how to let go of it, and propel yourself forward!

8. Study People That Have What You Want:

No matter what you want, just know that someone has achieved it before. What’s great about this is that it allows you to study the behaviours, goals, perspectives and achievements of people who already have what you want. Whether it’s the smart kid in class, your work manager or a millionaire, by looking at how these people achieved their goals, it allows you to get a head start.

9. Ask… And Be Specific:

This is the part where action becomes key. While it seems super obvious, asking for what you want and making it crystal clear is something many of us forget when trying to get something. In truth, people are selfish. They will never give you something positive that you never asked for unless they want something in return.

10. Stop Apologising:

While asking for something you want in high places can be stressful and awkward and scary when you first do it, the one mistake all rookies make is apologizing. Don’t get me wrong, it’s important to be polite when asking a superior for something, however, the sentence doesn’t need to begin with ‘I’m sorry but I’m just wondering…’ or ‘It doesn’t matter if you can’t.’ By apologizing for what you want in an effort to be polite, you are only showing whoever you’re asking that you’re not 100% sure if you want/are ready for what you want.